Marriages are meant to be “til death do us part,” but sometimes good things fall apart. There’s no secret elixir to heal all wounds of a relationship and eventually, one or both partners fall short of the vows they made on their wedding day. This can be a hard reality to confront, but if you’re not happy and you’re not making progress in your marriage then it can be dangerous to force yourself and your partner to stick it out.
Marriages are entered with the expectation of “til death do us part,” but sometimes good things fall apart. There’s no secret elixir to heal all wounds of a relationship and eventually, one or both partners fall short of the vows they made on their wedding day. This can be a hard reality to face, but if you’re not happy and you’re not making progress in your marriage, then it can be dangerous to force yourself and your partner to stick it out.
Ultimately, roughly 50% of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. While Texas actually ranks very low on the list of states with the highest divorce rates, we still help plenty of couples find peace through the divorce process in the Lone Star State. So, what are some of the obvious signs that it’s time to call Divorce in Texas and start the separation process?
The relationship has turned violent
We want to mention this one first because it’s incredibly important – nobody should be subjected to violence in the home. Our homes and our marriages are meant to be safe spaces. People need to trust their spouse to protect them, not to hurt them.
You may fear the ramifications of seeking a divorce when a spouse has been violent towards you but there are options to protect you and your children should that day come. You don’t need to stick around just because you’re married.
We also feel it’s important to note the same is true for situations where you are the violent partner (or the relationship has become mutually violent). You must be honest with yourself. Are your actions putting others at risk? If so, it’s time to walk away and find help in reducing your own violent habits.
If you or a loved one have been a victim of domestic violence, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233
Communication has broken down
You’re going to fight. You’re going to disagree. It’s unrealistic to expect ourselves or our partners to agree on every single thing. But an argument is also often a sign of a desire to make things better. Where there’s a clear sign to worry is when one or both of the following are true: you can’t communicate without arguing or you don’t communicate at all.
Infidelity has infected your marriage
A marriage is a commitment. Married couples are meant to stick it out and meet the reasonable expectations they have set for each other. This means one should not seek out intimacy with others behind their partner’s back. If you feel the desire to seek out others or your partner has done the same then it’s a clear sign that there’s something very important missing from the marriage (unless, of course, you’re in an open marriage).
Your finances are at risk
Some married couples use joint accounts for just about everything while others keep finances separate and just contribute as needed. In either case, if you feel like your spouse is being negligent of your finances then it can risk your entire future. Whenever a spouse drains an account or makes irresponsible financial decisions that cost us our financial stability it is a blatant sign of disrespect. A divorce can be expensive, but consider it an upfront cost that preserves the future of your finances.
Your futures no longer align
It’s important to have hard conversations about your viision for the future before you get married. These expectations should be set early because if neither of you agrees on your goals as a couple, then you’re likely doomed from the start. However, some couples set this expectation and then realize their vision of the future changes over time.
Maybe you want to move somewhere far away and your spouse won’t let you or maybe you no longer want kids while your spouse is adamant about raising a family. In any case, if you don’t see yourself and your spouse together in the future then it might be best to cut bait now.
You’ve got one foot out the door
It’s natural to think about what’s next. We’re forward-thinking creatures and sometimes when we get an idea it’s hard not to obsess over it. So, maybe you’ve already come up with an exit strategy. You’ve thought about where you’d move to, what you’d tell your friends and family, and other aspects that come with a divorce. If you’ve already got one foot out the door it’s probably time to take another step out and get a divorce.
You’re reading this article
Honestly, if you’ve gotten this far then it might be time to pick up the phone and call an attorney. You have found yourself researching whether or not you should get a divorce and you’re deep into an article on a divorce attorney’s page. This is yet another sign that there’s an incurable illness in your marriage that requires the attention of a legal professional.
At Divorce in Texas, we’ve seen marriages fail for so many of these reasons and more. We know how to navigate the complexities of a failing marriage. Contact our team and we’ll guide you to a new start.
Ultimately, roughly 50% of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. While Texas actually ranks very low on the list of states with the highest divorce rates, we still help plenty of couples find peace through the divorce process in the Lone Star State. So, what are some of the obvious signs that it’s time to call Divorce in Texas and start the separation process?
The relationship has turned violent
We want to mention this one first because it’s incredibly important – nobody should be subjected to violence in the home. Our homes and our marriages are meant to be safe spaces. We need to trust our spouse to protect us, not to hurt us.
You may fear the ramifications of seeking a divorce when a spouse has been violent towards you but there are options to protect you and your children should that day come. You don’t need to stick around just because you’re married.
We also feel it’s important to note the same is true for situations where you are the violent partner (or the relationship has become mutually violent). We must be honest with ourselves. Are our actions putting others at risk? If so, it’s time to walk away and find help in reducing our own violent habits.
If you or a loved one have been a victim of domestic violence, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233
Communication has broken down
You’re going to fight. You’re going to disagree. It’s unrealistic to expect ourselves or our partners to agree on every single thing. But an argument is also often a sign of a desire to make things better. Where there’s a clear sign to worry is when one or both of the following are true: you can’t communicate without arguing or you don’t communicate at all.
Infidelity has infected your marriage
A marriage is a commitment. We’re meant to stick it out and meet the reasonable expectations we set for each other. This means we should not seek out intimacy with others behind our partner’s back. If you feel the desire to seek out others or your partner has done the same then it’s a clear sign that there’s something very important missing from the marriage (unless, of course, you’re in an open marriage).
Your finances are at risk
Some married couples use joint accounts for just about everything while others keep finances separate and just contribute as needed. In either case, if you feel like your spouse is being negligent of your finances then it can risk your entire future. Whenever a spouse drains our account or makes irresponsible financial decisions that cost us our financial stability then it’s a blatant sign of disrespect. A divorce can be expensive but consider it an upfront cost that preserves the future of your finances.
Your futures no longer align
It’s important to have hard conversations about our vision for the future before we get married. These expectations should be set early because if neither of you agrees on your goals as a couple then you’re likely doomed from the start. However, some couples set this expectation and then realize their vision of the future changes over time.
Maybe you want to move somewhere far away and your spouse won’t let you or maybe you no longer want kids while your spouse is adamant about raising a family. In any case, if you don’t see yourself and your spouse together in the future then it might be best to cut bait now.
You’ve got one foot out the door
It’s natural to think about what’s next. We’re forward-thinking creatures and sometimes when we get an idea it’s hard not to obsess over it. So, maybe you’ve already come up with an exit strategy. You’ve thought about where you’d move to, what you’d tell your friends and family, and other aspects that come with a divorce. If you’ve already got one foot out the door it’s probably time to take another step out and get a divorce.
You’re reading this article
Honestly, if you’ve gotten this far then it might be time to pick up the phone and call an attorney. You have found yourself researching whether or not you should get a divorce and you’re deep into an article on a divorce attorney’s page. This is yet another sign that there’s an incurable illness in your marriage that requires the attention of a legal professional.
At Divorce in Texas, we’ve seen marriages fail for so many of these reasons and more. We know how to navigate the complexities of a failing marriage. Contact our team and we’ll guide you to a new start.
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